Forty5 Days

May 19: The South

May 19, 2007 · 2 Comments

May 19

Birmingham, Al-I met Jordan Conn in some of the earliest days of my Junior year in high school. It didn’t take talking him for more than 15 seconds for him to mention that the land he called home was far from that of most of the kids at Phil-Mont Christian Academy. With great pride he declared that he came up to Philly after growing up in Atlanta. He was from the South.

And so was born a running joke. Although that’s not exactly an accurate description. Neither would it be accurate to call it a point of contention. But it was a little of both. Since those first days our friendly banter in some way involved underhanded shots at one another’s ‘homes.’ I had to let Jordan know he was in the North now and this was how things were going to be. And like any man with pride, he had to defend his turf. We played off of familiar stereotypes (for instance poor dental hygiene, and poor use of the English language for Southerners…you know, in case you were so inclined to make such ill-informed attempts at humor). But, for the most part it likely had to do with a lack of understanding. He had been thrown into a new cultural construct, while I maintained my ignorance of any beyond the city line. It was beautiful.

Fast forward to today.

I can’t say I have much of a better understanding of life in the South after spending one full day in Birmingham, Alabama, but it’s been cool to soak up a short amount of time in an area where the warm greetings from people who are, for all intents and purposes, strangers flow as freely as the sweet tea.

So far, based on my minimal experience with this particular part of the country, I like what I see from the South. From the looks of it, a town like this could be a pretty cool place to work/live on day.

Just a couple of side notes. The house Jordan’s wedding will be in tomorrow is one of the nicest homes I have set foot in. The Dreamland BBQ that we had for the Batchelor Party dinner was one of the best meals I have had in a long time. Normally I would have a picture to accompany these outlandish claims. But as of right now I have no clue what image will run alongside this post. You’ll have to check back Monday for that.

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May 18: Fright or Flight

May 18, 2007 · Leave a Comment

May 18

Birmingham, Al.-First off, my apologies for the glaring absence of a picture in today’s post. Actually, I have no reason to apologize. It’s actually all the fault of the Marriott’s Business Center, which has three beautiful looking computers, however they are all programmed to run on some limited operating system that only allows for usage of the Internet, Word, Excel, PowerPoint, and Adobe Acrobat. In other words there is no program available for photo-editing or resizing. I had the option of running a huge picture of an airplane wing soaring over blue skies sparsely separated by white clouds, but I figured I was better off just waiting for my return to post the pictures. That said, Forty5 Days will likely be imageless until Monday night. My apologies?

Anyways, the reason for the title of today’s post (obviously a spin off of the ‘Fight or Flight‘ response to triggers to the nervous system) is because I took to the blue skies for the first time today since I was about eight years old. And I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t a bit wary of the whole process. Despite 30 (or has it been 40? 50?) years of commercial airline success, something about the idea of an awkwardly shaped piece of metal gliding 10,000 feet in the air makes me a bit uneasy. Well, thanks to today’s flight (and a favorable next-seat neighbor) this whole air traffic thing is starting to win me over.

That being said, I am in Birmingham. The next couple days will be hectic. I think I already witnessed a drug deal (amazing how I can live in Philadelphia for near 20 years and notice a deal in Birmingham way easier than in my home town). I’ll do my best to keep you posted (sans the aesthetics).

Oh, by the way. This blog (as it was originally planned) has less than a week left in its existence. I’m open for suggestions. Bag it? Perhaps. We’ll see if we can come up with something more favorable.

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May 17: Towerlight Farewell

May 17, 2007 · 2 Comments

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At the end of each semester The Towerlight has a dinner and party to bring an official end to that particular period of the paper’s life. Tonight was that night. Everyone convened at Glory Days for the meal which as per tradition involved everyone ordering enough to feed  pretty much every third world country for 17 or so years (since the check picked up by the paper). Afterwards me and J.D.’s apartment played host to the after dinner party.

Everyone seemed to have a good enough time (including Rusty who has probably never been around that many people before in his entire life). But as the the night hours ticked away I realized that I had to finish packing. Tomorrow I fly out to Birmingham for Jordan’s wedding. My flight is at 1:50 in the afternoon, but being that I haven’t flown in about 14 years I plan on giving myself plenty of time at the airport to insure that I don’t end up on a flight to Singapore (which wouldn’t be all that bad, now that I think about it).

Anyways, it’s late. I’m worn out. Things are dying down here (it’s 2:42 a.m.). And I’ve got a fairly early morning.

I have one minor concern about this weekend. Access to a computer. I will try my darndest to keep the blog rolling through Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. If not, know that it’s because there are no computers in Alabama.

Thanks to all who came by tonight. And for everyone who gave me a graduation gift or card. It means a lot.

*Editor’s Note: Pat and Lauren mentioned my saving of the life of a cat tonight. That is a slight overstatement. The guy who actually saved the cat (its owner) was about 30 feet up in the tree. I climbed a solid 20 to give him a hand, but in actuallity I did next to nothing. I appreciate the shot out. But it wasn’t me who grabbed the cat off of the branch and tossed it 25 feet (during which it smacked a branch with its head). It was the owner. But it was pretty fun.

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May 16: A Basketball Brotherhood

May 16, 2007 · 3 Comments

May 16

“I’ve got nothing to do today but smile.”

-Simon & Garfunkel

This was the day I’ve been looking forward to for a long, long time. For the first time in what seems like months, I was able to do absolutely nothing. No obligations. No plans. No responsibilities. No nothing.

It was good.

Because of classes, etc. my Mondays-Thursdays have been shot. Because of WMJF I have usually been up relatively early, and remained somewhat busy on Fridays. Because of Towson games, events, this, that, and the third, I generally keep busy on Saturdays. And because of The Towerlight my Sundays have been less than restful. But having finished classes, exams, and handed in my final projects of my college career Monday and Tuesday, I could finally spend a day doing nothing.

I woke up at 11:30. Made and ate pancakes. Zoned out for an hour or so. Realized I had incorrectly dated yesterday’s post, and changed it hoping no one noticed. Wandered back into bed for another two hours (during which I had a dream–or was it a nightmare?–that I watched Mel Gibson’s ‘Apocalypto’, which wasn’t nearly as cool as the dream I had last night where I was playing Madden 2008, which was amazing). Woke up again around 3:30. Headed to Burdick for the first time in a few weeks to play basketball. Came back to my apartment. Showered. Ate. And here I am.

Sleep and basketball are two things I plan on getting in a lot more of now that classes are done. With a heavy focus on the latter.

In my four years a fraternity of sorts has developed out of Burdick. And I’ve always considered myself a proud brother. The gym was my first social circle. I remember the dad of one of my friends from home saying the only people I’d need to meet at school were the guys that play basketball. He wasn’t exactly right. He also wasn’t very far off.

It was even the focus of one of my first Towerlight commentaries.

If it weren’t for a hectic schedule since I started this blog a few weeks ago, there’s no doubt Burdick would have been featured far earlier. Regardless, it would not have been the first time I made mention of my hoops haven in an internet blog.

Through a good portion of my freshman and sophomore years myself and a bunch of friends, mostly from high school, had Xanga sites as a means of keeping one another updated on our lives. Being that Burdick was a significant part of nearly every one of my afternoons, I had these words to say in a post from December 27, 2003:

From day one I noticed something about the crop of ballplayers at Burdick. They weren’t the purest of shooters. Nor were they the smoothest ball handlers. But they could run. They could jump. And they could bench press me fifty me times if they got the urge to do so. For the first month or so I heard the words “get into the weight room ’shorty’ ” more than I ever could have imagined…

I stopped shying away from the occasional verbal battle. Never have I gone so far as to say something that would get me bench pressed (or beaten mercilessly), but I’ve toed that line…

Burdick is a place where 5th year senior football players reign supreme. Most of which have used up their years of eligibility. That’s where the combination of brute strength and athleticism stems…Now that the football season is finished there are considerably more 4.5 40s running fast breaks, and weight room junkies patrolling the lane. More profanity spews forth, and more calls are disputed. One mid-November contest lasted over an hour. Every call led to an argument. And every argument led to ten minutes wasted. It is a miracle that blood wasn’t shed over that game…

One of the most beautiful characteristics of Burdick is the fact that you can go months without knowing anyone’s name, but still be able to call for an outlet pass and have the ball delivered to you for an easy deuce. See, at Burdick players don’t go by names. They go by letters and syllables. Such names include “E” (about 8 guys claim this Burdick alias) and “G.” As well as “Sco,” “Ant,” and “Zo” (who refers to himself as “Tha Horse”). Other nicknames include “Dirk” (pure shooting big man) and “Favre” (QB look-alike). As for myself, basically no one knew my name until December. Instead I was referred to as “Ridnour” or “Retro”, both of which are references to my hair. I had grown so accustom to this that it was slightly disappointed when people actually called me Darnay, it just wasn’t the same. It wasn’t Burdick.

A lot has changed since freshman year. The competition isn’t nearly as good. The number of guys that showed up each afternoon has significantly decreased. And there are nowhere near the personalities there once were. You could have just as good a time sitting on the sidelines, jumping from conversation to conversation, as you would playing. And a lot of times you had no choice but to do so. Through the majority of my freshman year, if you did not show up before 4:05 (the gym opened at 4) you would not get on until close to 5:30. Timing was everything. This was especially the case if you were an average-sized, rail-thin white kid. If you had not yet established a rep you would be forced to wait even longer to finally get on the floor.

Back then you had to be tough. Physically and mentally. People were going to talk. And they’d more likely do so after out-muscling you in one way or another. If you didn’t hold your own, walk with a swagger, and act like you belonged on the floor, you would hear about it. Not too long ago I was playing with one of the regulars from my first two years, Agee (nicknamed after the ‘Hoop Dreams‘ character), and I made some comment about how some of the younger kids there that day had bad attitudes. Without a moment’s hesititation he spit back, “That’s how you used to be.” Really? “Yeah, you had an awful attitude, always had to say something.” Yeah, but I had to right? “Yeah, you’re right.”

There was a right of passage at Burdick. It took you standing your ground. You had to be firm, but you had to do so without making enemies.

Since then things have died down a bit. Fewer good players. Fewer arguments. Fewer long waits on the sidelines. Within my first year I established myself as one of the regulars, and once you do that there seems to always be a roster spot waiting for you. I haven’t been a daily fixture there for a couple years now. But even if school or work keeps you from being a regular, no one forgets that you once were.

Since my freshman year I have been on five Intramural championship teams and have played in two regional tournaments. I won one of those titles and played in one of the tournaments with ‘Dirk,’ and even played in a men’s league with him, former Towerlight sports editor, Brent Kennedy, and a bunch of other guys this semester, just to have one last chance to run with those two guys who both graduated last spring.

And I’ve even been able to make a number of my contacts with Towson athletes at Burdick. One in particular being Gary Neal. I would go into length about that particular story, but instead I’ll link you to the ‘In This Corner‘ I wrote about ‘G’ a couple years ago.

So when I say that Burdick is a fraternity of sorts, I say it in all seriousness. You play basketball Thursday afternoons, then four hours later hang out with the same guys at the bar. It’s a beautiful thing.

I knew that I’d miss Burdick more than anything once Winter Break rolled along. And I wasn’t wrong. I miss those 7th year senior football players. I miss half the people still not knowing my name, or if I even have one for that matter. I miss picking verbal fights that, if turned physical, would end up with me filing an injury report.

Yeah. I’m going to miss Burdick.

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May 15: Done and Done

May 15, 2007 · 1 Comment

May15

I’m finished.

Today I had my final class as a college student, and maybe my last class ever.

Still hasn’t hit me. But you know what has? The effects of my recent sleep deprivation. Tomorrow I have absolutely nothing to do. I should be back in full effect.

Brief look ahead:

Towerlight end of the year dinner and party on Thursday.

Jordan Conn’s Wedding on Sunday (May 20). I will be flying out Friday afternoon (my first flight in about 12 or 14 years).

Graduation May 24.

*Pictured: Stephens Hall after my Mass Media Graphics class this afternoon. I had some cooler pictures, but I thought it was appropriate to show something from campus being that today brought an unofficial end to my college career. Weird. Also, today’s title: I’ve always heard this phrase, but never knew its origin. This should shed a bit of light.

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